Missed yesterday
Feb. 26th, 2023 03:43 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
noblwishIt was one of those days that sorta flew by so fast, I didn't notice the passage of time.
The funeral was nice. I wish I'd known Taylor better, but I got to know him more through his family and friends yesterday. I'm now listening to his favorite band, Coheed & Cambria. They're pretty good.
Yesterday got me thinking about what I'd want for my own funeral. I know I want a green burial -- preferably freeze dried crystals placed in a cornstarch box and planted beneath a Dogwood Tree in the Harding Family Cemetery in Moscow, Texas. Not sure that's possible in this country, yet, but it has been in Europe for a while.
Although I profess to be a Christian, my religious beliefs have shifted significantly since 2016. I've begun to see the religion I was raised in as a cult. Sure, there are some good things included, but most of that is ignored for the stuff Jesus specifically did NOT want. I haven't lost my Faith, but I have lost my Religion. Therefore, I don't think I want "Amazing Grace" played at my funeral. Even most of the bagpipe versions have become overused and cliché -- the only possible exception is if it's the exact version from "ST:TWOK," complete with the majestic James Horner soundtrack accompanying the launch of Spock's casket. Otherwise... pass. Speaking of soundtracks, if there's a need for background music, I want "Rogue One" played first. Any John Williams, Ennio Morricone or Michael Giacchino will work.
Also, there's a file somewhere in on my hard drive and/or Google Drive called "Family." I want that played. It was gifted to me by the composer when I reached out to ask if it would be released on CD anywhere. It's the closing theme song to the TV series "Brothers & Sisters," starring Sally Field and Calista Flockhart. He made me promise I'd never share the file, and I haven't. It's a treasure of mine that will go to my children.
If there were any Hymns I can currently think of that I might want played, it would be "Victory In Jesus," but either play all three verses, or JUST the oft-ignored second verse about healing. That was Clay's favorite... for obvious reasons. Also, I always loved "Just As I Am." It invokes fond memories of attending church as a little girl, growing tired by the end and sorta half-napping in my Daddy's arms, my head on his shoulder as he gently swayed to the music during the altar call.
Aside from those, I definitely want Roger Whitaker's "For I Loved You." It's a family tradition which began when I chose it for Clay's funeral. That'll get the tears flowing, for sure. Josh Groban's "To Where You Are" is another good one. There was another I thought of yesterday that I felt really encompassed who I am... and now I can't remember it*. Dammit. I couldn't recall why I wanted Mom to call me this morning either, when she finally did. Fucking ADHD. I don't think it was this one (the other was happy or funny, I think -- to accompany a slideshow), but "The Show Must Go On" by Queen is another must. Oh, and "The Dance" by Garth Brooks. We haven't heard that one in a while. "11 Easy Steps" by Trout Fishing in America is another good one -- and a little less depressing.
I don't want a preacher, either. I want people to just get up and tell stories. If they're too overcome to do so, then they can write them down and have a local actor read them. Why not? I think I'd rather have something akin to a Wake than a Funeral. I know, you can have both and most usually do. But I don't want people to grieve. I want them to dance. I want them to sing and laugh and eat and drink and cry. I want to have ALL the feelz! And I want them to remember my going-away party and smile when they think of me.
*I REMEMBERED! Duh! "Rock You Like A Hurricane" by The Scorpions! I was conceived in a hurricane, so that's my song! Another happy one is "Elusive Butterfly" by Bob Lind. I always loved that song. Heh... "White Rabbit" by Jefferson Airplane would be apropos, as well.
The funeral was nice. I wish I'd known Taylor better, but I got to know him more through his family and friends yesterday. I'm now listening to his favorite band, Coheed & Cambria. They're pretty good.
Yesterday got me thinking about what I'd want for my own funeral. I know I want a green burial -- preferably freeze dried crystals placed in a cornstarch box and planted beneath a Dogwood Tree in the Harding Family Cemetery in Moscow, Texas. Not sure that's possible in this country, yet, but it has been in Europe for a while.
Although I profess to be a Christian, my religious beliefs have shifted significantly since 2016. I've begun to see the religion I was raised in as a cult. Sure, there are some good things included, but most of that is ignored for the stuff Jesus specifically did NOT want. I haven't lost my Faith, but I have lost my Religion. Therefore, I don't think I want "Amazing Grace" played at my funeral. Even most of the bagpipe versions have become overused and cliché -- the only possible exception is if it's the exact version from "ST:TWOK," complete with the majestic James Horner soundtrack accompanying the launch of Spock's casket. Otherwise... pass. Speaking of soundtracks, if there's a need for background music, I want "Rogue One" played first. Any John Williams, Ennio Morricone or Michael Giacchino will work.
Also, there's a file somewhere in on my hard drive and/or Google Drive called "Family." I want that played. It was gifted to me by the composer when I reached out to ask if it would be released on CD anywhere. It's the closing theme song to the TV series "Brothers & Sisters," starring Sally Field and Calista Flockhart. He made me promise I'd never share the file, and I haven't. It's a treasure of mine that will go to my children.
If there were any Hymns I can currently think of that I might want played, it would be "Victory In Jesus," but either play all three verses, or JUST the oft-ignored second verse about healing. That was Clay's favorite... for obvious reasons. Also, I always loved "Just As I Am." It invokes fond memories of attending church as a little girl, growing tired by the end and sorta half-napping in my Daddy's arms, my head on his shoulder as he gently swayed to the music during the altar call.
Aside from those, I definitely want Roger Whitaker's "For I Loved You." It's a family tradition which began when I chose it for Clay's funeral. That'll get the tears flowing, for sure. Josh Groban's "To Where You Are" is another good one. There was another I thought of yesterday that I felt really encompassed who I am... and now I can't remember it*. Dammit. I couldn't recall why I wanted Mom to call me this morning either, when she finally did. Fucking ADHD. I don't think it was this one (the other was happy or funny, I think -- to accompany a slideshow), but "The Show Must Go On" by Queen is another must. Oh, and "The Dance" by Garth Brooks. We haven't heard that one in a while. "11 Easy Steps" by Trout Fishing in America is another good one -- and a little less depressing.
I don't want a preacher, either. I want people to just get up and tell stories. If they're too overcome to do so, then they can write them down and have a local actor read them. Why not? I think I'd rather have something akin to a Wake than a Funeral. I know, you can have both and most usually do. But I don't want people to grieve. I want them to dance. I want them to sing and laugh and eat and drink and cry. I want to have ALL the feelz! And I want them to remember my going-away party and smile when they think of me.
*I REMEMBERED! Duh! "Rock You Like A Hurricane" by The Scorpions! I was conceived in a hurricane, so that's my song! Another happy one is "Elusive Butterfly" by Bob Lind. I always loved that song. Heh... "White Rabbit" by Jefferson Airplane would be apropos, as well.
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on 2023-02-28 06:20 pm (UTC)I was also raised Christian, and even though I still sing in a church choir no longer consider myself Christian. I'm not against it or anything, I just don't practice. Interestingly, I sang with a group at a funeral about a year ago, where we sang "Victory in Jesus".