In today's episode of #RandomBitching...
Dec. 6th, 2023 04:03 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
noblwishMom is getting rid of our excess plastic shopping bags. I get it... we have FAR too many because I keep forgetting to bring them to HEB. But rather than disposing of the cheapo ones, she tried to throw away several of the GOOD ones -- the ones you actually pay >$1 for that are rugged AND pretty. Some of them were purchased in other cities/countries when I was at Filma! I rescued them, fortunately, but then she gets all mad and says this is why she could never clean my room and why my living space is always a mess.
No, Mom... my living space is a mess because I've never had enough time in my day to do FUCKING EVERYTHING I'm expected to do, especially since having children, nor do I have the money to hire help (like your parents always had). I'm far from alone in this. And you could never clean my room because YOU DON'T KNOW THE VALUE OF WHAT YOU WANT TO GET RID OF!!!
For an upper-middle class princess, she cannot see the value in anything that doesn't immediately benefit her. Granted, she's not the only one in her family like that. I'm convinced it comes from a position of privilege that believes everything can be quickly and easily replaced, especially if you have excess leisure time and/or people you can throw money at to run your errands. My uncles rejected the idea of holding an Estate Sale for my grandparents' things, preferring to donate it all to the Catholic Church... we're not Catholic. The family could have easily made a few thousand on those antique knick-knacks, but they saw no value in them, whatsoever.
Back to Mom... she'll try to toss things that still have a valid use and will SAVE US MONEY by keeping, instead of replacing it a month or two down the line. She'll toss things that annoy her, regardless of their practical or sentimental value -- sometimes, she'll toss stuff one year only to get upset that she has to replace it for twice the price the next year. Regardless, she ALWAYS throws this passive-aggressive, emotionally abusive bullshit at me or the kids every time she gets upset about anything. I love that woman, but I often wonder if I'll be a different person, possibly a healthier person, once she's gone. I'm fairly certain SHE will be happier with my father and brother and others she understands far better than she does me.
I always thought I got my sophisticated tastes and sense of value from my mother. Now, I'm starting to wonder. She prefers simple things and gets annoyed at me for enjoying more exotic flavors and experiences. Maybe my father taught me the value of all things, and maybe my tastes were more influenced by nurture than nature.
No, Mom... my living space is a mess because I've never had enough time in my day to do FUCKING EVERYTHING I'm expected to do, especially since having children, nor do I have the money to hire help (like your parents always had). I'm far from alone in this. And you could never clean my room because YOU DON'T KNOW THE VALUE OF WHAT YOU WANT TO GET RID OF!!!
For an upper-middle class princess, she cannot see the value in anything that doesn't immediately benefit her. Granted, she's not the only one in her family like that. I'm convinced it comes from a position of privilege that believes everything can be quickly and easily replaced, especially if you have excess leisure time and/or people you can throw money at to run your errands. My uncles rejected the idea of holding an Estate Sale for my grandparents' things, preferring to donate it all to the Catholic Church... we're not Catholic. The family could have easily made a few thousand on those antique knick-knacks, but they saw no value in them, whatsoever.
Back to Mom... she'll try to toss things that still have a valid use and will SAVE US MONEY by keeping, instead of replacing it a month or two down the line. She'll toss things that annoy her, regardless of their practical or sentimental value -- sometimes, she'll toss stuff one year only to get upset that she has to replace it for twice the price the next year. Regardless, she ALWAYS throws this passive-aggressive, emotionally abusive bullshit at me or the kids every time she gets upset about anything. I love that woman, but I often wonder if I'll be a different person, possibly a healthier person, once she's gone. I'm fairly certain SHE will be happier with my father and brother and others she understands far better than she does me.
I always thought I got my sophisticated tastes and sense of value from my mother. Now, I'm starting to wonder. She prefers simple things and gets annoyed at me for enjoying more exotic flavors and experiences. Maybe my father taught me the value of all things, and maybe my tastes were more influenced by nurture than nature.